Attorney William C. Cremins won’t stand by while children or helpless folks are being threatened or abused. This is not a promise to help everyone free of charge, but it is recognized that some folks may be discouraged from avoiding violence, abuse, or threats of violence or abuse, because they don’t have money. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 to discuss whether you or your children may be helped pro bono, i.e., without charge.
Lawyer William C. Cremins has already been commended for Pro Bono work; no one needs to know if you are being helped without being charged. Your dignity may already have been torn to shreds by an abuser, so your lawyer needn’t disclose that you are unable to pay, but you are being helped anyway. While there is a limit as to what any lawyer can do without pay, contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 to discuss whether you or your children may be helped pro bono, i.e., without charge or to obtain further information regarding potentially helpful resources.
According to Asians Against Domestic Violence, 70 percent of men who sexually or physically abuse their wives also abuse their children, and up to 37 percent of women experience battering. This advocacy group explains that the number of women killed due to domestic violence in a five-year period equals the number of Americans killed in the Vietnam war. You may want to review these statistics once more, because most folks just don’t want to believe them.
Recent statistics indicate a woman is battered every 15 seconds in the U.S. Battery is the largest cause of injuries to women in the U.S., with between 3,000,000 and 4,000,000 women beaten in their own homes annually. Daily, four women in the U.S. are murdered by their husbands, or those in what is considered traditionally to be the role of a husband.
About 35 to 40 per cent of pregnant women are abused, some to the point of death. In the time it took for you to access the internet, how many U.S. women do you think were abused? Men are the abusers 95% of the time, which means there are a number of men being abused by women, although relatively fewer than women being abused by men.
Domestic violence transcends all races, socioeconomic groups, religions, and ages. Ministers, lawyers, police, and retired people are abused, and are abusing others, as odd as that may seem. There are men living in luxurious retirement communities who are abused regularly by their wives. Don’t think of stereotypes of uneducated, alcoholic folks on the other side of the tracks.
Signs of Abuse – There are red flags indicating the possibility of abuse. See the Denton case in the Representative Cases section of this site.
If you read Dr. Lenoir Walker’s The Battered Woman, you may recognize your situation. It is available in many libraries free of charge, or may be obtained via interlibrary loan.
Abusive behavior may not provide grounds for an Order of Protection, unless the behavior fits the definition of the governing statute. Sometimes, abusive behavior is just personally insulting or offensive. Sometimes it is criminal. Sometimes, it is grounds for divorce. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 for immediate advice upon what to do if a friend, relative, you or your children are being abused.
It is abusive to require someone to account for every mile on the odometer, or every minute outside the house, or every dollar spent. It is abusive to make a spouse unreasonably limit time outside the house, to be always available to cater to one’s desires. It is abusive to have to account for every person met, or talked to personally or by phone. It is abusive to isolate a spouse from friends or family, to encourage dependence upon the abuser and lack of personal independence. It is abusive to withhold money, or miserly dole it out as deigned appropriate without regard for another’s needs or wants.
It is abusive to make one spouse stay home when she wants to have a career. Sometimes the abuser, due to low self-esteem, or trust issues, is afraid that if his spouse obtains employment, a co-worker will have an affair with his wife or steal her away. Of course, this may be so with either gender, but it is more commonly found with men abusing women.
It is abusive to require a parent to home school children against the wishes of one who wants the children enrolled in a traditional school. It is abusive to force one to bend to the will of another in any of these situations, but these, generally, are not considered grounds for an Order of Protection, even if they may constitute grounds for divorce. “Abuse,” as required to get an Order of Protection is specifically defined in the Order of Protection law. Please contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 for details.
Abuse which rises to the level of grounds for an Order of Protection is usually also going to provide grounds for divorce. Abuse which is grounds for divorce may not fit the statute requirements to get an Order of Protection.
It is abusive to harm or threaten to harm another with whom certain relations are shared. It is a ground for an Order of Protection if one hurts or threatens to hurt such a person, or maliciously destroys property of or shared with such a person. If one holds another such person against the will of that person, an Order of Protection may be indicated. See the Denton case in the Representative Cases section.
One may seek an Order of Protection for one’s self or for one’s children. If concerned for others’ children, a referral may be made to the Department of Children’s Services or a local organization such as ChildHelp, or you may phone your local police to report your concerns. You may do any of these anonymously.
Threatening, forcing, or intimidating another to perform involuntary sex acts are grounds for an Order of Protection and grounds for divorce. Shame or embarrassment should not keep a victim from seeking help, but both cause some people to keep silent while this abuse occurs. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 for immediate confidential advice.
It is abusive to require an adult to worship in a place where women are involuntarily required to do things as part of the religion that arbitrarily deny their sexual choices. Sex in a marriage traditionally is considered an intimate choice expressing love and/or enjoyment of the other spouse. If sex is required deferred to men as to what and when sexual acts will be performed, even when it makes one person uncomfortable to the point of wanting to refuse to willingly defer, abuse is indicated.
In the guise of religion, some cult-like situations have women doing things to be “good,” which they don’t want to do, because it makes them feel bad about themselves. Such “religions” may be nothing more than indoctrination centers training women to be abused and men to abuse them. Referrals to licensed, clinical psychologists are often made by William C. Cremins to help clients cope with unrealistic expectations arising from abusive relations. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 to discuss this confidentially if this is happening to you.
Typically, abused people hide their bruises or make flimsy excuses for them. “I fell down the steps,” ought to be a trigger for concern, if heard too often. Wearing long sleeves in hot weather may not be intended to stay warm as much as hide bruises. Unexplained trips to the doctor or hospital, mystery bruises, and withdrawals from society for days at a time may indicate abuse.
If you watch Knoxville’s public television station Sunday nights, you will find local officials discussing domestic violence and options available per Tennessee law.
There is a free, public “Order of Protection School” many Thursday mornings at 8 a.m. in the large assembly room of the Knoxville City-County building located at 400 Main Avenue, Knoxville, Tennessee. Phone (865) 215-2404 to learn whether the “Order of Protection School” will be held on a Thursday when you can attend.
Why don’t Victims Leave Abusers? – If you are concerned for a loved one or child you believe may be in an abusive relation, don’t hold others to the standards you hold for yourself. Victims don’t leave abusers for a number of reasons:
Shame stemming from religious or social beliefs may inspire a woman to submit to abuse, rather than separate or divorce.
Loyalty to a spouse or loved one, an admirable characteristic, may be misplaced resulting in harm to one’s self or children.
Financial dependence may keep a person from fleeing, because you can’t get far nor eat very much with just a few dollars. Many folks don’t realize a divorce court or Order of Protection court may require financial support be paid to help the fleeing person get away and become independent.
Emotional dependence (or co-dependence) may leave a person too fragile to flee. Does anyone really believe he or she can’t start life strong but gradually wear out after repeated episodes of heightened anxiety and/or violence? Even the toughest soldiers can develop post-traumatic stress, so why can’t folks understand others can, too? Perhaps there is something in all of us that hopes and wishes it can’t happen to us, so we don’t want to believe it could happen to another unless that other had something wrong with her, or him, initially. Victims ought not be blamed for being victims, rather, abusers ought to be blamed for being abusers.
Learned helplessness is an emotional condition characterized by a person coming to believe there is nothing that can be done to avoid problems. Why does an elephant not run away at the circus? He is trained that he can’t go more than a few feet when an ankle bracelet is on his ankle. At first, the elephant may tug at the chain pounded into the ground and secured to his ankle. Gradually, he learns that when that ankle bracelet is on, he just has to restrict his movements and can’t go anywhere. Victims sometimes learn they can’t do anything to avoid threats or abuse, but this can be unlearned.
All Powerful Abusers may impress upon victims that the victims are small and weak, while the abusers are strong, politically connected, and can’t be stopped. Who wants to take on a battle that can’t be won?
Low Self Esteem may result from any number of causes, and/or be fostered by an abuser who takes advantage of one with low self esteem or teaches a victim to have low self esteem. If you don’t think you can leave, you can’t. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 for a confidential discussion.
“Its my Fault” may be what some believe when they are beaten, justifying the violence by coming to think it is appropriate sometimes. It is never OK. One woman explained she deserved abuse because she never did anything right. Another came to believe she could manage or control her abuser by giving in to his excessive and crazy demands upon her and the children. This kind of thinking leaves no one happy or safe.
Why do Batterers Batter? One source indicates at least half of men who beat their wives grew up in homes where violence against family members was considered OK. If one can learn a bad behavior is OK, one can engage in the bad behavior without qualms. One may consider it normal to abuse women and children, because cultural norms instilled that belief. There was a man who tried to explain to a judge in an Order of Protection case that, in his native country, a man could beat his wife if she displeased him. He quickly learned that ideas differ here.
Sometimes, violence and bullying is an expression of power that one does not have anywhere outside the home. A person may be bullied at work, in the community, or otherwise feel vulnerable until inside his or her home where the tables turn, and that person is able to exercise some authority. A person may become so stressed that he or she does not know how to relieve it other than through violence.
Alcohol addictions or drug addictions may complicate already dangerous situations. Low self-esteem may leave some folks jealous or concerned they will be left for a richer, better, more handsome, more successful new spouse. Personality disorders may be inflamed by the slightest triggers.
Knoxville Attorney William C. Cremins takes Orders of Protection seriously. If there are threats of harm to you, or if you have been hurt by a relative or certain others, Attorney William C. Cremins will try to quickly and diligently secure a protective order to ensure your safety. If a spouse is making up stories to gain an advantage in a divorce, William C. Cremins will strive to reveal the fraud upon the court. . Depending upon your circumstances, William C. Cremins may be able to provide pro bono legal services if you may not be able to afford a lawyer and your safety (or your children’s safety) is at risk.
If you are a victim of abuse or threats, Knoxville Lawyer William C. Cremins, will work hard for you to keep you safe. Mr. Cremins takes these cases seriously, and your well-being is a first priority. There are safe houses where victims and their children may flee to get away from an abuser. Obviously, those safe houses would not be very safe is addresses were listed on this site. Contact William C. Cremins at (865) 546-7124 for immediate advice upon what to do if you or your children are threatened.
The abuser must be told in specific language to stop harming or threatening you. A court order puts the abuser on notice to stay away from you, and an immediate arrest upon your complaint to the police may result if you have an Order of Protection and you explain to the police that it was violated by one the Order requires leave you alone.
William C. Cremins recognizes that Orders of Protection are sometimes misused in divorce cases, or by unmarried but cohabiting people trying to get away with pretending to be abused just to get money after a breakup. One spouse may want more custody time or more money, and bring an Order of Protection lawsuit in a misguided abuse of the legal system. False accusations of spousal abuse and/or securing a restraining order can severely affect a divorce proceeding. Physical abuse should never be tolerated, nor should an untrue allegation be allowed to stand.
Cases that involve Orders of Protection are rife with emotions, whether the abuse allegations are true or not. Did abuse occur justifying an Order of Protection? Are the accusations being made by an embittered spouse who only wants more money or feels jilted? The truth can come out with the experience of a dedicated attorney on your side.